There is this idea in Stoicism that things are either within your control or out of your control, with most of life falling into the “outside of your control” category. I think this is a good place to start. However, you will eventually need to open up the spectrum to include your capability and capacity to influence events. Ask first “is this inside or outside my control.” Then ask “to what extent can I influence it.” Once that is worked out you can start working on how to proceed.”
If we don’t grow to evaluate the nature and power of our influence over ourselves and the world around us it is too easy to shed ownership in how our lives are going.
