The “World” is a crazy place and at times it can seem like it is spinning out of control… because it very well might be, and usually is… At times like this, my resolve to stay focused on what I can control is pushed and tested. It is tempting to get into the headlines, the […]
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You can recover from the vast majority of mistakes. When I teach clients and groups about the stages of change I try to emphasize the high likelihood that once we start taking action to change we will fail… and that failure is OK. It might even be necessary for real growth and development. What I
We get grumpy when we don’t get what we want. So maybe… if we controlled our desires we would be less grumpy? Take a moment and just list off all the things you want. Maybe you are lucky and that little exercise made you feel motivated. More than likely you are like a lot of
Each moment is a choice to live the life we want to live. We can’t change our choices in the past, but we can make a choice that helps us right now. It is a trap to wallow in our despair about past choices when we can step out of the mud and the muck
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Not starting is self selecting failure. A common perspective in the military is to have a “bias for action.” The cautious, security seeking portion of our mind will tell us “No just wait we need to know more before we begin.” That might be a trap and I would encourage you to challenge that hesitation.
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Want to be more content? Start by challenging the assumption that you should be ceaselessly pursuing pleasure and constantly avoiding pain. It might even be worth taking a look at the habits you have developed in seeking pleasures and avoiding challenges. Those habits might just be an indication that you are caught in the “this
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There are forces in the world, and inside us, that push and pull us. The defense against being harmed by these forces is to be clear on what we value so we can cut the strings of harmful influence and stop them from jerking us around like a puppet on a string.
To live the life you want to live, you must be the product of your sound judgement, well reasoned thoughts, and proper actions. This can’t happen if you allow yourself to think and act like you are the victim of your environment and circumstances.
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Habits are a double edged sword. On one side they can help us shape the life we want to live, while on the other they can deepen the ruts of our bad behavior. The good news is there is a simple test for any habit in our lives. All you have to do is reflect
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