The negative influences of power can be tempered by ethics and a desire for self-control.
We all know the platitude that “absolutely power corrupts absolutely” but even a little bit of power can have negative consequences when wielded haphazardly. The Stanford prison experiments showed us that a little bit of position power can result in a distortion of personal morality. Unchecked power can lead to detachment from others and a focus on self above other social interests. It might influence poor decision making and overconfidence. And it could generate a sense of anxiety leading to paranoia driven manipulation, micro management, or inability to trust and delegate.
We all have some level of power in our lives and with that power comes a responsibility to ensure we are wielding it ethically, effectively, and safely (yup…a little head nod here to Mike Row and the idea of safety third).
So how do we handle power properly?
- Have a moral anchor and practice ethical reflections: Your anchor can be a role model or mentor who provides an example or guide and frame work. When we reflect, we stop and compare and contrast our actions, decisions, and behaviors to the standard set by our Anchor
- Generate self-awareness through mindfulness: By developing the capability and capacity to sit and observe your thoughts, feelings, and behaviors in the present moment, you open a window to introspection which can show you the impact your use of power is having on your life and your relationships.
- Develop emotion regulation skills: Learning to regulate your autonomic nervous system through paced breathing, exercise, sensory focus, and thought reframing gives us space to pause before we default to using our power in a way that could be harmful.
- Break out of your ivory tower or echo chamber: Seek first to understand the people around you by developing greater empathy through active listening and out reach.
- Seek accountability and share transparently: Empower others (maybe your mentor) to hold you accountable for your actions, decisions, and behaviors and be open about why you do the things you do (especially with yourself).
- Empower others: Ask for help by delegating and then give encouragement and show gratitude.
- Know your limits and let go: Ethical power is given not taken and comes with the responsibility not entitlement. Treat the true source of your power with respect and integrity and when it is time to move on do not cling to your status.
Like Spider-Man, it is important for us to recognize that with great power comes great responsibility. It is also important to recognize that any power can be a great power. Keeping an ethical orientation and practicing self-control can help us ensure our personal power is a force for good and not harm.
