Every pile of papers on the counter.Every box in the garage you’ve been meaning to sort.Every unanswered email in your inbox. They all carry more weight than they appear. On the surface, it looks like clutter — stuff that simply needs to be organized. But underneath, each stack, drawer, or folder represents dozens, maybe hundreds, […]
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When people think about wellness, they often focus on sleep, nutrition, or exercise. But one of the most overlooked pillars of total wellness is your social connections. At Tactics Total Wellness, we view strong relationships as a critical asset — just like physical fitness or mental sharpness. Strong Social connections are the result of intentionally
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When we hear the word “mission,” most of us think of military operations or high-stakes business objectives. But what if you approached your own life as a mission—one that demands intention, planning, and preparation? At Tactics Total Wellness, we call this Mission Focused Mental Fitness, and it’s built on the belief that a meaningful life
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In our house we avoided assigning chores and instead focused on teaching our kids to be responsible for their fair share of the work as a “duty.” We can also try to frame our responsibility to develop self control as a duty we owe to ourselves and to those around us. Self-control can be defined
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Some emotions are secondary effects of our perceptions and thoughts. These manufactured emotions can cause us a lot of problems. Let’s try on a hypothetical example. Perhaps you see a task in front of you that scares you and you freeze up. Once you recognize you aren’t getting the job done you get angry with
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For a lot of people, understanding themselves often stops once they have made a list of likes and dislikes. This list of preferences can be handy, but it lacks depth. What I would encourage you to do is to go beyond just identifying preference and explore your capabilities and capacity. Try starting with these basic
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I spend a lot of time thinking about what it means to live a life worth living. Over my years of study, reflection, and some experience I think I have landed on one of the key ingredients. The keystone factor in living a life worth living is that YOU must see it is worth living.
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You can recover from the vast majority of mistakes. When I teach clients and groups about the stages of change I try to emphasize the high likelihood that once we start taking action to change we will fail… and that failure is OK. It might even be necessary for real growth and development. What I
You don’t have to act on every thought you have or emotion you feel. Let me swing a little harder… acting on every thought you have or emotion you feel is not wise, respectable, helpful, or your right to do without consequence. What you can do with every single thought you have or emotion you
I love this question for a few reasons. First, the answer is typically a binary yes or no and that helps with clarity. Another reason is that the language of the questions is not seeking a subjective judgement of quality or morality. Perhaps my favorite reason is that we can use it to challenge our
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